Is not responding to their name a sign of autism?

Yes, not responding to their name can be an early indicator of autism. It does not mean a child is ignoring you on purpose; it often reflects differences in how they process sensory information.

How can I help my autistic child respond to their name?

Use visual cues, gentle touch, and practice name recognition during play. Understanding the why behind the behavior is key to better communication.

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Why Doesn’t My Autistic Child Respond to Their Name?

DrorAr101 — Sun, 13 Jul 2025 16:11:05 +0000

Understanding early signs of autism and how to support communication

It used to break my heart.

At the playground, I’d call out my son’s name—again and again—and get nothing. Other kids turned to their parents with a quick smile or a “What?” My son kept playing like I wasn’t even there.

At first, I thought he was ignoring me. Or worse, I thought I was doing something wrong.

But here’s what I wish I’d known: Not responding to their name can be an early sign of autism—and it doesn’t mean they don’t love you or care. It means their brain processes sensory input differently. What feels automatic to us isn’t always automatic for them.

What Helped Us

Using visual cues: standing in front of him or waving
Gentle touch on the shoulder
Saying his name before offering something exciting (like a favorite toy)
Practicing during play, without pressure

Over time, he’s started to respond more—but even when he doesn’t, I now understand why. That shift alone changed everything.

You’re Not Alone

If you’re noticing this too, you’re not a bad parent—and your child isn’t broken. They’re communicating in their own way.

Have you experienced something similar? Share it in the comments—we’re building this understanding together.

Embracing Autism: Our Journey Continues – Building a Supportive Network for Saar and Myself

DrorAr101 — Wed, 02 Apr 2025 10:52:38 +0000

I shared my experiences as a single mother embracing autism in my previous blog post. Afterward, I received overwhelming support. The community showered me with kind words and encouragement. Many of you have asked for more details about our journey, and I am more than happy to share. In this follow-up post, I will discuss why a supportive network is important for Saar and myself. I will also cover the steps I have taken to create such a network.

Finding the Right Professionals: As a parent of a child with autism, having a team of skilled professionals is essential. This team should include doctors, therapists, and educators who understand autism and can provide tailored support for Saar. After much research and a few trials and errors, we finally found a team that works best for us. They have helped Saar develop essential communication, social, and emotional skills.
Connecting with Other Parents: I cannot stress enough the importance of connecting with other parents facing similar challenges. These connections have provided me with invaluable emotional support and practical advice. I found local support groups. I also found online forums and social media groups. Through these platforms, I could share my experiences and learn from others.
Building a Supportive Community at School: School can be challenging for a child with autism. It is important to work closely with the school. This helps to create a supportive environment for Saar. I communicate regularly with Saar’s teachers and support staff. I ensure they know his needs and make sure he receives the necessary accommodations. I also educate them about autism, providing resources and suggesting training opportunities.
Involving Family and Friends: My friends and family have played a vital role. They have supported Saar and me throughout our journey. I have taken the time to educate them about autism, its challenges, and its unique qualities. By sharing our experiences, I have created a circle of people who understand and support Saar. This makes our lives much easier and more enjoyable.
Advocating for Saar: I advocate for Saar’s needs and rights as a parent. I have become actively involved in local and national autism advocacy organizations. I attend events and lobby for policy changes. These changes benefit individuals with autism and their families. By raising awareness and fighting for change, I am helping to create a better world for Saar and others like him.

Conclusion: Building a supportive network for Saar and myself has been essential to our journey with autism. It has helped us navigate challenges, celebrate victories, and learn from each other. I hope our story can inspire others facing similar situations and demonstrate the power of community in embracing autism.

I look forward to sharing more about our journey in future posts.

Stay tuned for the next post in this series. I will share tips on managing day-to-day challenges and creating a structured, predictable environment for a child with autism.

Finding Our Place: The Great American City Hunt for Families Like Ours

DrorAr101 — Tue, 14 May 2024 13:10:22 +0000

Hey there, fellow parents and curious minds! As someone navigating the rollercoaster ride of raising an autistic child, I’ve been on a quest—a quest to find the best city in the good ol’ USA where the sidewalks are paved with understanding, and the parks are sprinkled with sensory-friendly swings. So, grab your metaphorical travel mug of coffee (or wine—no judgment here), and let’s tour the cities that claim to be autism-friendly wonderlands!

1. San Francisco, California – The Golden Gate to Support

Oh, San Francisco, with your foggy charm and hills that give our calves a better workout than a month at the gym. But it’s not just the physical landscape that’s uplifting; it’s also the incredibly supportive environment for families like ours. Home to a plethora of therapy centers and cutting-edge research, it’s where the autism community can find both solace and cappuccinos that cost as much as a small car payment. High cost of living? Sure, but who needs a savings account when you have access to the best developmental programs in the country?

2. Minneapolis, Minnesota – Cooler Than a Cucumber in a Freezer

If you can brave the winters that might freeze your hot chocolate while it’s still in the cup, Minneapolis is a heartwarming hub of inclusivity and support. The city is known for its top-notch healthcare and welcoming community that sports more layers than an onion—and I’m not just talking about it during the winter. Educational resources? Plenty. Sensory-friendly activities? You betcha. Just pack your parka, and you’re set!

3. Denver, Colorado – Mile-High Hopes and Dreams

Next stop, Denver! It’s more laid-back than a recliner after Thanksgiving dinner. Denver offers a breathtaking backdrop for our family adventures and a robust network of services for children with autism. The city is all about outdoor activities that can soothe even the most sensory-sensitive souls, proving that nature is the best therapist (and significantly cheaper).

4. Rochester, New York – Not Just About the Kodak Moments

Rochester isn’t just home to a big waterfall and the echoes of a camera empire; it’s also a beacon of light for families like ours. With initiatives like the Golisano Children’s Hospital, this city is on the Kodak roll of fame for more than just picturesque snowfalls—it’s a leader in developmental pediatrics. Who knew that the best place for our kids could also be where you get to wear stylish winter boots for half the year?

5. Austin, Texas – Keepin’ It Weird and Wonderful

Last but certainly not least, let’s not forget about Austin, where the city motto is to “Keep Austin Weird.” And weird is good—we thrive on different! This city not only belts out live music that makes our hearts sing but also offers a symphony of support for the autism community. With its vibrant educational programs and an array of therapeutic services, Austin is where you can rock a cowboy hat and an advocacy cap simultaneously.

Wrapping It Up

So there you have it, my rundown of the best cities to raise a child on the autism spectrum. Each city has its quirks, like every member of our little families. Now, if only they could all come together to form one super city—let’s call it Autisopolis—we’d all pack up and move tomorrow, wouldn’t we?

But until that utopian dream comes true, we’ll keep exploring, one city at a time, finding joy in the communities that embrace our unique journeys. After all, it’s not just about finding the best place to live; it’s about finding where we feel we belong. Safe travels, everyone, and remember: the best GPS is your heart (though sometimes, Google Maps helps, too).

10 Thoughtful Gift Ideas for Moms of Autistic Kids Like My Saar

DrorAr101 — Thu, 25 Apr 2024 08:59:38 +0000

Being a mom to a child with autism, like my son Saar, brings unique challenges and incredible moments of joy. If you’re thinking of what might make a meaningful gift for a mom like me, here are ten ideas to make a difference. These suggestions are based on my experiences and the small things that have brought a bit of ease, joy, and support to our daily lives.

Gifts for Relaxation and Self-Care:

Weighted Blanket: The gentle pressure of a weighted blanket can provide calming deep pressure stimulation, promoting relaxation and better sleep. https://amzn.to/4d5bVX0
Essential Oil Diffuser: Create a soothing atmosphere with a vital oil diffuser. Lavender, chamomile, and bergamot are known for their calming properties. https://amzn.to/4aGaInv
Noise-Canceling Headphones: A little peace can go a long way. Noise-canceling headphones allow moms to enjoy quiet time or listen to calming music. https://amzn.to/4deZVCe
Subscription Box: Treat her to a subscription box tailored to her interests, like a book club, a beauty box, or a coffee subscription. https://amzn.to/3Uz2PcT

Gifts for Practical Support:

Planner or Organizer: Help her stay on top of appointments, therapy sessions, and daily tasks with a planner or organizer designed for busy moms. Look for one with sections for to-do lists, meal planning, and essential contact information. https://amzn.to/3UduGyX
Sensory Fidget Toys: For moms who enjoy sensory stimulation, consider a set of fidget toys. These can be helpful for stress relief and focus.
Audible Subscription: Give the gift of audiobooks. Moms can listen while commuting, doing chores, or taking a moment. https://amzn.to/3W8hZYS
Meal Kit Service: Take the stress out of meal planning with a subscription to a meal kit service. Choose one with options that cater to dietary restrictions and preferences.

Gifts for Connection and Inspiration:

Book on Autism: A book written by an autistic author or a parent of an autistic child can offer valuable insights and support. https://amzn.to/3UhKDUC
Jewelry with an Autism Awareness Symbol: A beautiful necklace, bracelet, or pair of earrings with the puzzle piece symbol can be a subtle and meaningful way to show support and raise awareness. https://amzn.to/3JxV6X5

Gifts like these aren’t just things; they are gestures of understanding, compassion, and support. They remind moms like me that we aren’t alone in this journey. Each thoughtful gift says, “I see you, I appreciate you, and I’m with you.“

Reflecting on “The Reason I Jump” Through Our Eyes

DrorAr101 — Mon, 11 Mar 2024 09:29:38 +0000

The Reason I Jump

I recently had the chance to read “The Reason I Jump” by Naoki Higashida. It’s a heart-touching book written by a thirteen-year-old boy living with autism. Reading about Naoki’s experiences was like finding a hidden doorway to my son Saar’s world. It’s been hard to grasp his thoughts and feelings, but Naoki’s book felt like a guiding light.

Naoki’s stories hit home. He talks about why jumping helps him and others with autism feel better or process emotions. It took me back to Saar’s younger days, seeing him find comfort in those repetitive motions, a way to show us what he couldn’t put into words.

The way Naoki breaks down complex emotions into simple, understandable pieces is eye-opening. It helped me see things from Saar’s viewpoint. For example, when Saar felt overwhelmed in a busy place and needed some quiet, it clearly showed how sensory overload affected him, something Naoki knew all too well.

Naoki’s genuine and captivating way of expressing himself reminds me so much of Saar’s rare but insightful moments. Those brief connections are priceless, and “The Reason I Jump” has made me treasure them even more.

I can’t recommend this book enough to anyone wanting to get a glimpse into the world of autism. It’s enlightening and calls for empathy and understanding, celebrating the rich inner world of individuals like Naoki and Saar, who see things differently.

Finishing Naoki’s book, I’m overwhelmed with gratitude. It’s given me a deeper understanding and appreciation of the journey Saar and I are on together. There’s beauty and room to grow through every hurdle, something “The Reason I Jump” captures so perfectly.

Embracing the Journey: Navigating Adulthood with Autism and Finding Joy in Routine

DrorAr101 — Sun, 14 Jan 2024 17:32:58 +0000

Hello, we have cherished friends and companions on this extraordinary life path. This is Amit, once more opening up about our experiences – the intertwined lives of Saar and me, as we journey through the challenges and marvels of autism in adulthood.

Navigating the Unknown: Saar’s Path to Adulthood

Adulthood, typically a time of newfound freedom and exploration, holds a different essence when you’re the parent of an autistic child. For Saar, it’s not about a sudden surge of independence but rather a series of deliberate, small steps toward self-sufficiency. Our journey is joint exploration, guided by hope and charted with patience.

Saar’s interaction with the world is distinctive, and we celebrate unique milestones. His first independent errand, managing his time, and articulating his needs are our victories, brimming our

hearts with pride. Each step he takes towards autonomy is a celebration of his bravery and perseverance, showcasing the remarkable person he is evolving into.

Finding Joy in the Simplicity of Routine

Amid these transitions, our daily routines stand as comforting pillars. There’s an undeniable beauty and reassurance in the simplicity and predictability of our day-to-day life. Whether it’s the meticulous way Saar prepares his breakfast or our evening strolls filled with his unique insights, these moments are the fabric of our existence.

What the world might see as ordinary, we embrace as our triumphs. These routines offer Saar tranquility and provide me with comfort. They are silent victories, affirmations of a life lived with autism but not overshadowed by it.

Embracing Each Moment with Love and Empathy

Through Saar, I’ve learned to see the world in a new light. His perspective turns the mundane into the extraordinary, teaching me daily to appreciate the small wonders – the design in leaves, the rhythm of rain, the feel of different fabrics. His world is a tapestry of details, and I am blessed to be part of his journey.

Our experience with autism is not about ‘us versus the world’; it’s about embracing and understanding the beauty in our differences. It’s a celebration of the little things, the daily routines, the quiet moments of ‘being.’

To You, Dear Reader

Whether you’re on a similar path or seeking understanding, those reading know that joy in routine isn’t about limiting life but cherishing it. It’s realizing that profound joys often lie in the simplest of moments.

As we continue to navigate the complexities of adulthood with autism, I am constantly reminded of the immense strength and love found in embracing life in all its diversity. Saar’s journey is a beautiful tapestry woven with resilience, growth, and happiness. As his mother and greatest supporter, I cheer for him at every turn.

Thank you for being part of our story and journey. Your support and understanding are invaluable to us.

With heartfelt thanks,

Amit

P.S. To those on this journey, remember you’re not alone. Reach out, share your story, and continue to celebrate every small victory together.

Continuing Our Journey: Celebrating the Holiday Season with Saar in 2023

DrorAr101 — Thu, 14 Dec 2023 19:57:00 +0000

Dear Readers,

As we approach the end of yet another year on our extraordinary journey with Saar, the holiday season engulfs us in a whirlwind of emotions. It’s a time of jubilation, indeed, but also a moment of profound introspection as we contemplate the phenomenal growth we have witnessed in Saar and how it profoundly impacts our own festivities.

Saar’s Growth and Its Joyful Impact

Saar’s newfound interest in baking has brought a delightful twist to our holiday traditions this year. I recall a recent evening when Saar, with flour on his nose and a beaming smile, proudly presented us with his first batch of cookies. His meticulous attention to detail, once a challenge, became his strength in decorating each cookie uniquely. *This simple activity, a departure from our routine, shows his remarkable adaptability and growth, making *this holiday season even more special for *all of us.

Creating a Sensory-Friendly Holiday Environment: Practical Tips

Subdued Decorations: Opt for less overwhelming decorations. Soft, warm lights instead of flashing ones and minimal but meaningful adornments can create a calming atmosphere.
Quiet Corners: Designate a quiet area in your home where anyone can retreat if the festivities become overwhelming. A comfortable chair with a favorite book or toy can be a simple yet effective sanctuary.
Familiar Foods: Include familiar and preferred foods in your holiday meals to cater to sensory sensitivities and ensure everyone enjoys the feast.

Inclusive Celebrations: Making Gatherings Autism-Friendly

Communicate with Guests: Before any gathering, communicate with your guests about the specific needs of your loved one with autism. This promotes understanding and prepares them for any necessary accommodations.
Flexible Itinerary: Keep your event schedule loose. Allow room for breaks, and be ready to adapt activities based on your loved one’s comfort level.
Involvement in Planning: Involve your autistic family member in the planning process. This can be as simple as letting them choose a movie to watch or a game to play, making them feel included and respected.

The Significance of New Traditions

Embracing new traditions has been a cornerstone of our celebrations. For instance, our ‘cookie baking evening’ is now an annual event. These traditions are more than just activities; they give Saar a sense of belonging and stability during the holiday chaos. They are our way of cherishing the present while creating lasting memories, reinforcing our family’s unique bond.

The lessons we’ve learned from adapting our holiday celebrations extend far beyond the festive season as we move forward. They remind us of the immense value of flexibility, understanding, and embracing the incredible diversity in the way each member of our family experiences joy and togetherness.

I sincerely hope our heartfelt story resonates with and inspires other families to discover their distinctive path to a joyful and inclusive holiday season. May your celebrations overflow with boundless love, profound understanding, and cherished moments that create lifelong memories.

I wish you and your loved ones the happiest of Holidays and a New Year filled with joy, laughter, and warmth.

With heartfelt love and deep warmth,

Amit

Embracing Change and Growth: Our Journey with Saar in 2023

DrorAr101 — Sun, 10 Dec 2023 13:13:56 +0000

As the year 2023 draws to a close, my heart overflows with indescribable emotions as I reflect on the extraordinary journey my son Saar and I have embarked upon. This past year has been a tapestry woven with unyielding determination, unimaginable growth, and soul-stirring moments, igniting a flame within the hearts of the autism community.

Words cannot capture the sheer brilliance of Saar’s progress throughout this remarkable year. It is as if he has unlocked a hidden treasure chest of communication skills, allowing his thoughts and emotions to burst forth like a symphony of love. Witnessing this breathtaking evolution has enveloped our lives in an enchanting embrace, deepening our bond. Every word uttered, every gesture made, is a testament to the resilience that resides within him.

Together, we dared to explore new frontiers, embracing therapies and activities that opened doorways to boundless possibilities. Music therapy became the vessel through which Saar’s true essence was unmasked, revealing an innate rhythm that dances within his soul. It ceased to be just a therapeutic measure; it transformed into a kaleidoscope of pure joy and self-expression, gracing our lives with countless moments of serenity and elation as we harmonize in song and dance.

But our journey extended far beyond the nurturing confines of our home. We embarked upon a quest to integrate Saar into the vibrant tapestry of our community. With open hearts and outstretched hands, we joined many autism-friendly events, where laughter reverberated and acceptance enveloped us like a warm embrace. During these gatherings, Saar discovered a profound sense of belonging, a sanctuary where he is celebrated for the beautiful soul he is, fostering immeasurable growth and connection.

As a nurturing parent, I have blossomed amidst these transformative times. Patience has become my guiding light, illuminating the path we traverse together. I have learned to cherish even the smallest victories, for in their glory lies a monumental triumph. Tirelessly, I advocate for Saar’s needs, resolute in my pursuit to ensure he stands strong amidst a world that may not always understand. The autism community, a haven of unwavering support, has been my guiding compass, steering me with their boundless wisdom, empathy, and understanding. The connections forged throughout this year have become an invaluable lifeline that raises its mark upon our spirits.

In this reflection of sparkling memories, I witness a year embraced by unyielding change, a tribute to growth nurtured with love, and an anthem to resilience crafted with unwavering hope. Saar’s journey is a testament to the kaleidoscope of colors that adorn the tapestry of life, a shining reminder of the beauty that lies in the diversity of our human experience. As we stand poised at the precipice of a new year, my heart swells with hope, each beat an echo of anticipation for the boundless possibilities that lie ahead.

To all the courageous parents treading similar paths, let our united cry ring loud and clear across the horizon: our children’s achievements, regardless of size, reverberate with immeasurable magnitude. Let us continue to lift one another, supporting, learning, and growing as we navigate this intricate journey together. May the future be drenched in the hues of love, understanding, and endless possibilities, embracing every soul that finds solace beneath its gentle sky.

Happy New Year!

With love, Amit, Saar’s Mother

Happy Thanksgiving, Autism Heroes

DrorAr101 — Thu, 23 Nov 2023 13:19:01 +0000

Autism Heroes

Hello, dear friends,

As Thanksgiving approaches, I reflect on our journey – mine and my son Saar’s. Saar, now 23, has been my most outstanding teacher in life. His autism has opened my eyes to a world of unique perspectives, challenges, and triumphs.
This Thanksgiving is more than just a holiday for us; it’s a celebration of the little victories, the growth we’ve both experienced and the unspoken language of love and understanding we’ve developed over the years.
Saar’s journey with autism has been like a kaleidoscope, constantly shifting and presenting new patterns. Each phase brought challenges, from helping him navigate social situations to creating an autism-friendly haven at home where he feels safe and cherished.
I remember the early days of confusion and fear following his diagnosis. But as I look back now, I’m filled with gratitude for the incredible journey we’ve been on. Saar’s unique view of the world, attention to detail, and ability to find joy in the simplest things have been a constant source of inspiration.
Our Thanksgiving celebration might look different from others. It’s tailored to accommodate Saar’s sensory needs and preferences. But the essence of the day remains the same – it’s about giving thanks for the love, the lessons, and the unbreakable bond we share.
This year, I’m particularly thankful for the moments of understanding and acceptance we’ve received from those around us. Each act of kindness, each effort to include Saar in the community, does not go unnoticed.
To other families walking a similar path, know you’re not alone. Our journeys might be unique, but they’re interwoven with shared experiences of resilience, love, and an unspoken understanding beyond words.
As we gather around our Thanksgiving table, I am reminded that it’s not just about the food or the festivities. It’s about celebrating each other, our journey, and the countless blessings, seen and unseen, that autism has brought into our lives.
Happy Thanksgiving to all, and may your hearts be as complete as ours.
With love and gratitude,

Amit

Seeing the Unseen: How ‘Everything Everywhere All at Once’ Celebrates the Autistic Spectrum

DrorAr101 — Sat, 21 Oct 2023 08:36:36 +0000

Hey there, awesome readers! It’s Amit from the 101 Autism blog. I wanted to share my thoughts on a movie that’s had a significant impact on the autism community, myself included. It’s called “Everything Everywhere All at Once,” an incredible piece of art changing how autism is represented in the media.

“Everything Everywhere All at Once” is an extraordinary 2022 American science fiction action-comedy film skillfully directed by the dynamic duo Daniel Kwan and Daniel Scheinert. Brace yourself for an exhilarating cinematic experience as this awe-inspiring masterpiece unfolds. Prepare to be amazed as the talented Michelle Yeoh takes on the role of Evelyn Wang, a remarkable Chinese-American laundromat owner who embarks on an incredible journey to save the multiverse from an indomitable evil force. Alongside her seemingly impossible mission, Evelyn confronts the challenges of her newfound autism diagnosis with unwavering strength and resilience, all while maintaining a delicate balance between her beloved family and successful business. Prepare for an unforgettable adventure filled with courage, hope, and triumph!

Everything Everywhere All at Once’ Celebrates the Autistic Spectrum

What makes this film a beacon of light in the autism community are several factors that I would like to share with you:

Authentic Representation

Autistic individuals, including my son Saar, are often misrepresented or underrepresented in media. This film breaks the mold by presenting Evelyn as a character who embodies the challenges and experiences many autistic people encounter daily. Her complexity and well-rounded personality offer viewers an authentic glimpse into the life of an autistic individual.

Celebration of Autistic Strengths

The narrative takes a beautiful turn by highlighting the strengths and unique perspectives that come with autism. Evelyn leverages her autistic traits as her superpower, an empowering history that breaks away from the often disabling portrayal of autism in media. It sends a powerful message to all autistic individuals, affirming that they are not “less than” but possess unique abilities that are truly remarkable.

Positive Messaging

The film radiates positivity, showcasing the potential and capabilities of autistic individuals. It paints a picture where autistic traits are accepted and celebrated, fostering a sense of pride and acknowledgment for the autistic community. It echoes the sentiments we encourage here in our blog, where we embrace the beautiful spectrum of autism with open hearts.

Entertainment for All

Beyond its deep and meaningful narrative, “Everything Everywhere All at Once” is a beacon of entertainment, offering humor, action, and adventure that people of all ages and backgrounds can enjoy. It is a film that unites us in laughter and keeps us on the edge of our seats, a true celebration of the spirit of adventure and the joy of cinema.

In conclusion, “Everything Everywhere All at Once” is more than just a film; it is a celebration of the autistic community, a testament to the strength within every autistic individual, and a narrative that fosters understanding and empathy. If you are seeking a film that portrays autism with authenticity and celebrates the unique strengths that come with it, this film is a must-watch. It is a creation that leaves a lasting imprint, encouraging viewers to see the world through a different lens, much like how we share our experiences and perspectives here on our blog.

Thank you for joining me today, and I hope you find as much joy and understanding from watching “Everything Everywhere All at Once” as many others have, including myself and my wonderful son, Saar. Stay tuned for more insights and shared experiences here on 101 Autism.